How to get engaged: 13 steps not to forget
Have you found the love of your life? Do you want to propose soon? Great decision! But before you pull out the engagement ring box, try to think everything through. Engagement is one of the most important and beautiful moments in life. That's why it's essential to plan this big moment down to the last detail. And to ensure that you're not completely alone, we've put together a handy checklist so you don't forget anything. Engagement is not only a beautiful gesture, it's a big step. A decision to walk through life side by side. Before you dive in headfirst, try to make sure early on that you and your loved one see the future the same way. Housing, marriage, family, children, values... talk about plans, dreams and practicalities. If you haven't talked about these topics yet, try to open up sensitively and subtly. There's no need to start long, deep discussions right away. Just ask subtle questions from time to time to help you see that you are moving in the same direction. This is a practical but very essential step. A ring that is too small won't even fit your future fiancée, while a ring that is too big can slip off and get lost. With most rings you can adjust the size, and with us the first size adjustment is even free and without a time limit. However, if you choose a ring with side stones all around the band, the chances of making it right are very low. Fortunately, there are a few ways to subtly find out. The more adventurous can try taking measurements in someone's sleep, while others can take a look into the jewellery box of a loved one. For methods, along with instructions on how to measure a ring size, see our article.
1. Make sure you want the same things from life
2. Find out the ring size
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3. Choosing an engagement ring
Perhaps the most important part of the whole process. After all, an engagement ring is a symbol of love that will remind your loved one daily of that special moment when you decided to step forward together. But choosing isn't just about budget. It's all about your loved one's taste and personality.
Take note of what jewellery she wears – is she more of a romantic soul, does she love bold pieces or does she rely on subtle minimalism? The choice of stone is also relevant. A classic diamond engagement ring will never disappoint, but if you're after something more personal, reach for an atypical ring with a coloured sapphire, moss agate or other unusual stones. These alternative engagement rings are our (and your) favourites.
TIP MIALIS: You can choose gold engagement rings in any colour of gold without any price difference. So don't forget to choose the one your future fiancée likes best. And if you're about to propose to a man and you haven't found a ring in our range that suits your fancy, we'll be happy to create a custom engagement ring for you.
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5. Plan
For some, spontaneity comes naturally. For most of us, however, a well-thought-out plan will give us peace of mind and confidence. Prepare everything important: when, how and at what point you will ask the question. Have a clear idea in your head. This way, you won't get nervous and the whole engagement will go naturally.
6. Choose a location
The engagement should be personal. Select a place that connects you – feel free to choose where your first date took place, a favorite mountain trek or your dream vacation destination. It's up to you whether it's an adventurous moment in nature, a romantic proposal at a restaurant or a quiet evening at home with a glass of wine. A person who loves pomp will be most pleased by grand gestures. More introverted tips, on the other hand, don't enjoy a movie engagement in front of hundreds of strangers. So vote according to what you and your love like.
7. Have a plan B ready
Life just happens. A stressful day at work, an unpleasant argument, a sudden change in the weather, crowds of people – sometimes things just don't work out the way you want. That's why you should prepare a back-up option. If your picnic goes wrong or the place gets unexpectedly busy, you won't be upset. In the worst situations, the engagement can be rescheduled. And even if things don't go as planned, you'll always remember this moment.
8. Write a speech
There is no need to prepare a long monologue, but a few sentences from the heart shouldn't be missing when proposing. Therefore, think in advance what you want to say – why her/him, why now. Write it down, even several times. Try saying it out loud to yourself in front of the mirror. You don't have to know your speech like a poem, naturalness is always best. But in the future, you might regret that you didn't say everything you wanted to say to your loved one out of nervousness.
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Maybe that part might seem silly to you now. But those who are prepared are not surprised. Trust that, especially if you are not a natural speaker, you will remember in the moment and thank us for this advice. Stress, emotion or the power of the moment can really mess with a person. Almost anyone who's ever proposed will tell you that.
9. Ask your parents for a blessing
This tradition is now skipped by many couples, but it still has its charm – especially if it is important to the partner's family. You don't have to ask in any spectacular way, sometimes a simple, honest and humble conversation is enough. It shows respect and opens the door to a family that will soon be yours.
10. Calm down
Before the big moment, have some time to yourself. Take a deep breath, go for a walk, listen to your favourite music. You can do it. Nervousness is totally natural – it means you really care about the proposal. And maybe that's why it's the right time to take that step.
11. Kneel down and wait patiently for the right words
And here it is! Kneeling, speech, box, question, look, emotion. You've done it. You've taken a really big step. But don't forget to give your partner a moment to react. Even if it's only seconds, it will seem like an eternity to both of you. Live this special moment to the full – you've just stepped into a new phase of life together.
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12. Celebrate it together and with others
Congratulations! After the proposal comes the next phase of joy and euphoria. The stress is off and you can celebrate your big step in life together – now as fiancés and future newlyweds. Whether you plan a dinner together, a night with a glass of champagne or a grand announcement to family and friends, enjoy every moment. It's the next chapter of your story and it's worth celebrating.
13. Plan your wedding
Now the real ride begins – full of planning, joy and maybe even a little chaos. After all, the most important moment when your paths will be joined forever is next – the wedding. But don't worry, we won't let you down. We've also put together a wedding checklist, where you'll find a detailed guide on how to plan your wedding.
P. S. When you choose atypical wedding rings or wedding jewelry, remember us. You will surely find the right ones here. And if not, we'd be happy to make customized wedding rings for you!
